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anxious attachment relationship
what are good ways to overcome anxious ambivalent attachment?
Im currently 20 yrs and I find myself messing up relationships cause if my insecurity.
I know im anxious ambivalent cause my partner is the first thing on my mind and the last thing on my mind if i have nothing better to think about. Im always looking for bad things in our relationship when it is going good.
I also always feel the need to be constantly loved or shown affection. I’ve always thought it wasn’t me but in this relationship that i rly want to make work i find myself messing things up over trivial things.
im constantly jealous and am constantly worried about being dumped.
Im worried that i will never learn to control this and tha it will ruin my relationship. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
look it up before saying something like ur inmature.
I honestly don’t know a lot about attachment theories, and you sound like you’ve research this quite a bit….so I probably won’t be a great deal of help! I just wanted to say that it all does have a lot to do with your own self esteem & it may just be that being in a relationship that is very important to you is bringing out these issues more. While you can work on it in the relationship, you may start finding you become more dependent on your partner for the resolution of your concerns & that may make things even worse. While I’m not saying its your fault, I think approaching your insecurity issues in general, not just inside this relationship, will help a great deal. And have faith in yourself – you can learn to control it, nothing is entirely set in stone – while it’ll probably take time & be hard at times, you have all the power to do so 
Good luck
